Here goes. (This is all in good faith Joe, we're only arguing about ideas, nothing personal at all)
Let's start with central argument: Why don't men do sex work the same as women?
Because the market is far, far smaller. This is the landscape: Straight men are the biggest spenders in the sex work industry, then gay men and then women.
All it takes is one glance at a Camsite to know this the case. Most male sex-workers perform to a gay audience., what percentage of the population is gay? 3%?.
This simple fact basically puts this argument to bed.
Next.
"How many men have spent years living off of woman after woman, passing on from one woman to the next until his latest partner gets tired of him"
In what world is this common male trait? Women do the exact same thing. This is another non-argument based on hyper-focusing on male misbehaviour while minimising female misbehaviour. (This is something that people who have a world view based on feminism do constantly, maddeningly).
"Why don’t we view this type of relationship as a sugar boy and sugar mama relationship so readily"
Because it's not even close to being the same thing. Living in somebodies apartment isn't the same as receiving free trips around the world. (And once again, in what world do men do this more than women?).
The market for Sugar Boys is minuscule compared to the market for Sugar Babies. Women generally aren't interested in Sugar Boys because men and women differ psychologically. Men are attracted to visual sexual stimulus more than women. It's that simple
"Could this hesitance be the relics of our patriarchal programming talking for us?"
What patriarchal programming? Do you have any evidence of this so-called programming that is apparently instilled in the minds of every man? The modern man is raised to respect women and treat them equally. What relevance do these sexist relics of the past have to a man in his 20's today?
"If that’s the case, how comfortable do these men assume every single woman is when engaging in sex work or a sugar baby relationship?"
Is the implication here that we should feel sorry for sugarbabies and camgirls? Women are the victims as they make $50 per hour for posing in front of a webcam, or being given gifts simply for flirting with an older man?
The level of discomfort women go through is nothing compared to the incredible pay-offs available to these women simply for being female.
Certainly, this kind of work is not for everyone, but any young woman who has the right personality can benefit greatly from this new world of digital sex-work in a way that men can't.
"Maybe they can’t stand that women are better than them at something"
It's the same feminist-thinking rational every single time. That men simply can't handle successful women. It's not remotely true and maddening to hear over and over again.
"It’s actually our male-dominated perspective thinking for us when we conjure up this idea and a whole lot of bad and low-key sexist thoughts about gender roles."
Of course it is. Women making large amounts of money at a young age is the patriarchy in action. It's always the patriarchy. The perfect one dimensional answer for everything.
Not all digital sex workers make tons of money, some struggle to pay the rent. That's beside the point.
The point is, a new field of digital sex-work has emerged. Young woman can now make a living selling pictures of their feet on onlyfans. They can become an "online findom" and profit from male porn addiction (completely free of scrutiny), they can make higher wages than any of their male peers by posing as a camgirl.
There’s nothing particularly wrong with that, but can we really continue to tell men in their 20’s — who are seeing this new marketplace daily — that they’re experiencing male privilege in a patriarchal society?
