How To Avoid A Relapse As A Porn Addict

And how to beat the devil of rationalisation

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Some of you are mild porn addicts. Some of you are deep porn addicts. You began to notice the strange, negative effects of watching pornography and now you want to stop.

But a porn addiction isn’t easy to stop. If an alcoholic wants to break their addiction, they remove all alcohol from the home. If a smoker wants to quit smoking, they can avoid going places where people smoke. But how is the porn addict supposed to separate themselves from their addiction?

You need a smartphone and laptop for work, social and other purposes. Yet on these very same devices can be found the addictive supernormal stimuli of pornography. This addictive stimuli can be accessed in approximately 2–3 seconds at any time; the only barrier to accessing pornography is needing to be in a private space.

What chance then does a porn addict have of curing their addiction? How can someone cure their addiction when the substance is so easily accessible and hard to separate from? By understanding and controlling the relapse.

The Stages Of A Porn Addict Relapse

To avoid a relapse as porn addict, it’s often not good enough to simple avoid watching pornography. Instead, whenever you have relapse, you need to retrace your steps backwards. Think of the minutes, hours or even days leading up to the relapse.

When an alcoholic relapses, it might go something like this: 1. They had a fight with their spouse and are feeling angry. They call their friend (the one who likes to drink) for emotional support. 2. The friend invites them out to a bar to talk about it. The alcoholic rationalises and thinks to themselves: I’ll just order a water. 3. While hanging out at the bar, letting their emotions out to their friends, they order a half-pint of beer. They think to themselves: It’s just a small glass, it doesn’t really count. Anyway, it’s weird to go to a bar and order water. 4. The alcoholic has now drunk 6 pints of beer, and is shouting at the barman for another. The relapse is complete.

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