Ok. As usual I find myself disagreeing with the consensus. As perhaps the only person who has actually had some involvement in the pickup community, the stereotypes are completely false.

These concepts like “negging” and “peacocking” are things that the PUA community left behind over 10 years ago. And yet these are the stereotypes that stick in people’s minds.

These days the PUA community is focused on concepts like “congruence” which means speaking and acting without a filter (To put it simply: Being yourself. Not hiding who you are).

They talk about the transference of emotions. Which means if you want the girl to be in a good mood, YOU have to be in a good mood.

Most of what the PUA community talks about now is extremely positive and extremely non-toxic. It’s widely known that misogynistic behaviours are incredibly repellent to women. The PUA community aren’t the bunch of misogynistic assholes you think they are.

I know men that have transformed from bitter and unhappy to fulfilled and happy through the PUA community. After all, picking up girls takes incredible bravery — and breaking through barriers like that can be incredibly fulfilling.

Sure, many still rate women on a scale of 1–10. But it’s widely known that it’s a personal scale of 1–10. What might be a 10 for you may not be a 10 for someone else.

They have saying in the community: “The only thing creepier than picking up women, is not picking up women”. Meaning that the men who never try to go after the women they want end up as the creepy werido at work hitting on their colleague, while those that do end up relaxed and normal around women.

That’s the thing about picking up women. Those who do it often get incredibly good at it. They become non-toxic individuals that women love.

The reputation and the reality of the pick up community couldn’t be further apart.

I didn’t really address the article, just the PUA community in general. Whoops.