That assumption that "women have it harder because patriarchy" is simply not correct. This is nothing more than a narrative that large numbers of people believe.

This is a feminist belief and not a fact. And it's the root of the problem. And it's why you're more likely to give feminists the benefit of the doubt and not men who argue against it.

"The patriarchy stuff is real". Is it? Are men actually advantaged in our current society? Are you sure?