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Why The Modern Dating Environment Is F**ked
And how you can succeed inside of it
Many of us have felt it: that there’s something wrong with the way couples meet each other in the modern world.
Most of us can’t put our finger on exactly what is wrong, but we can feel that something just isn’t the way it should be.
Women complain about men. Men complain about women. Is this just naturally how men and women feel about each other, or….
Is it instead a result of our modern environment?
And if our modern dating environment is fucked, then how can we, as individuals succeed inside of it?
The Tribal Environment VS The Modern Environment
For millions of years, human beings lived in small tribes. These tribes generally consisted of roughly 30–150 people working together to survive in a harsh natural environment.
The men would travel long distances, hunt animals, and bring them back to the tribe. The women would forage for food and take care of the children. You spent your entire life alongside the same group of people and, aside from occasionally bumping into other tribes, strangers didn’t exist.
Let me emphasise that: there were no strangers. Every single person in your day-to-day environment was someone you knew.
So how would romantic partners have found each other in the tribal environment?
Men and women would simply hook up with whoever they naturally felt was attractive — according to their bodily instincts. Our tribal environments had no restrictions, no laws and certainly no age limits; teenage boys and girls would have started having sex whenever they became attracted to one another.
Perhaps rape would take place within these tribes. However, if a man were to commit rape, the whole tribe would have quickly known about it, and he may have had to suffer the social consequences for his actions (perhaps the punishment of death, or perhaps nothing at all; we don’t have enough archeological evidence to…
