You seem to be on some kind of quest to try and convince men and women to have equal roles in dating. You want women to make the first move, for them to pay the bills and so on.

Impossible. Never going to happen.

These are not behaviors created by the patriarchy. Instead they’re part of the natural courtship ritual between men and women.

Every animal species have “mating dances” of various kinds. They do not change. And the mating dance between men and women is no exception.